Sure, I could have spent hours in my bed with internet porn and a vibrator collection (and I did), but the fact is that the way I enjoy my pussy and the way I like to be touched by a partner is different. Also, I can’t lick my own clit. My preferences for touch vary based on my cycle, who my partner is, and, now, my health.
Uhh thank you so much for saying this! I go through slut stages.. and then decide I “should be alone and learn about my own sexuality alone”… because “that’s the only way to really know yourself.” And while solo sex can be great, it IS different than partnered sex and playing with one doesn’t necessarily help you figure out the other. I don’t turn myself on the way a partner can turn me on for one. Reading this was so validating!