Totally can go both ways! Glad someone articulated this. I love playing with the power I have when I go down on someone — feeling they want me but I give it only when I’m good and ready. But I’ve also been in a position of having a guy push me down there and it makes me feel submissive. Both can be super fun.

It takes a lot more trust building for me to enjoy receiving. But that’s another story.

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