Totally agree with all of this. So much better sans condom. I’ve been using the pull-out method combined with charting my cycle with my long term partner for 8 years. The one thing I get sick of is guys telling me how unreliable this method is (I’m pretty open about talking about this stuff). Glad you wrote this… I might have to share it next time I hear someone else judge my choice for safer sex!

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