This is helpful and I agree it’s important to take time after a breakup to focus on yourself. But I don’t think erasing all signs of an ex from my life is the best way to go for me. I burned a box of mementos from my first bf years after our breakup, and at the time I thought it was the right thing to do because that’s what people say. But looking back now, 20 years later, I wish I still had some of those things, especially pictures of him and poems he gave me. So I agree no contact can be helpful temporarily and sometimes permanently, but not necessarily going Sunshine of the Spotless Mind on them.

Thanks for sharing this article. It was helpful to read and think about.

Polyamorous and sex-positive essayist, poet, and over-thinker.