There's so much in here I want to respond to! Yes to it all. Degrading a man can feel like such a release and yet it is very very connected to trauma, so it is incredibly important to find a safe way to explore in case what feels good in one moment slips into trauma territory in the next. Very interesting that "being that safe space" is a turn on for you. I don't think this is the case for all men, and I do feel that some use degradation for their own healing as well. Very interesting piece.