Thanks for writing and articulating this experience so clearly! I can relate to a lot of it. I was drawn to my partner partly because of how respectful he was and the fact sex wasn’t the goal for him when we were dating. This was refreshing. It took years for me to finally acknowledge that I love sex, while he doesn’t have a strong drive for it. We eventually opened up and I’m so grateful there are other non-monogamous people out there who can understand the need for different things from different people.

Polyamorous and sex-positive essayist, poet, and over-thinker.