Something I’m experiencing acutely in a relationship right now. Being blamed for having fear isn’t going to make the fear go away. There’s a great joke by Whitney Cummings about this- she’s referring to being a woman, but I think it can refer to mental illness too:
“you think this is fun for me? You think I would choose this for myself? You think I enjoy crying every time Adele is on the radio?”
The whole bit is pretty great.