I am as slow as hair growing — “My God! Lucinda, you can do the Tai Chi Walk!” I was walking up the hill in town when someone coming up behind me exclaimed this in admiration. “You really have it! I have been trying to learn to move that slow for years!” “I am tired!” was my ill-humoured…

#1: They listen to their emotions—but rarely trust them — Most of us grow up with a pretty confused attitude toward our emotions, especially the difficult ones. We tend to simply avoid anything that feels bad and desperately hold onto anything that feels good. But if you’ve ever tried dieting, saving money, having a difficult conversation, studying for a test…

I promise, if you would just listen, this would solve your problem, too… — Can you guess how many women were so catastrophically affected by marriage or heterosexual partnerships that they never want to date or marry again? Yes, I understand men have had bad experiences in romantic partnerships, too, but can we talk about women for a moment? Can you guess that number? …

1: Caring too much is careless. Caring too less is too careful. 2: Beauty fades but turns into grace if you will allow it. 3: Grief never leaves. It can come back on an unexpected afternoon in an old photograph. Grief never leaves, it gets less persistent. 4: Nostalgia is…

“Whatever I am, that I want to understand.” — I recently came across a passage from Krishamurti’s Think On These Things that gave me pause. I rarely highlight entire paragraphs when I read, but this one was so poignant that I had to elevate it from the page and into my memory. Here it is: I am envious because…

This article isn’t about eating or stopping meat though — Binding the thrashing hoofs with nylon strings, the butcher pulled out a whetstone. As he scraped the knife, it glinted menacingly in the sunlight — and the kid’s pupils dilated in terror. Yanking its head back, he sliced open the goat’s throat in one fluid stroke. As thick blood sprayed…

1: there’s the kind of aloneness where the question must be asked: is there no one around you, or are you by yourself? 2: the aloneness of falling asleep in an apartment somewhere in Bombay: the elevator has coughed someone up, your neighbour turns his key in the door, you…

A betrayal: In the aftermath of a betrayal when old fears become real, when worst nightmares find ways to wear skin and grow teeth, when everything terrible comes true, when there’s little trust and much pain – is when you begin to hold poems, know them and feel them. …

The stress of even a temporary breakup can trigger a particular kind of painful depression. By Dr T J Jordan We are familiar with clinical depression – a mood disorder that dwells somehow relentlessly within our psychological interior. In contrast, situational depression is always a reaction to a specific event…

Is it a good thing or are you just complaining to the world? — I do it. He does it. She does it. They do it. I mean, you see it all the time. Essays whinging about personal problems — depression, anxiety, retirement, marriage, writing itself, other people, life in general. Is complaining a bad thing to do when you’re a writer? Could it…

How taking back responsibility and control over my reality allowed me to let go of the burden of victimhood — It was my first boyfriend’s father, an avid hiker and wildlife enthusiast, who taught me how to identify safe drinking water in the mountains. He taught me that while glaciers may look pristine, they house layers upon layers of accumulated dreck and pollution. Other times, bacteria, worms, and other pathogens…

It’s time we stopped glorifying motherhood. — “My life is nothing like I had imagined. The saddest thing is that the glorious fantasies I basked in while I underwent all those hormonal injections of IVF quickly turned into little nightmares when the baby arrived. It’s been that way ever since. Here I am, frustrated, overwhelmed, and —…

The year I turned twenty-two marked two important life events. It was the year I was able to fully bask in the glory of Taylor Swift’s banger ‘22’, and — perhaps more importantly — it was the year that I was bestowed with the gift of first love. And what…

In the spirit of White Hair Grace — I do not fear my death. I am amazed by my deep happiness in the midst of this new and final journey. I plan to be as happy as I can to the end, yet I don’t have to do that myself …it is simply showing up. …

And why doing that inner work is terrifying — Dear men, In case you did not notice it yet, a fundamental cultural shift has happened in the last decades. We, men, have been busy chasing the traditional cultural symbols of success: house, family, job, career, stability, safety, comfort. Meanwhile, women were doing their inner work and shifting their role…

In a moment of pure fear, I deleted this post last week. I deleted all my gender identity posts and changed all my social media Bios. I was scared of the political climate right now. I am worried about where our country could be headed. But today is International Non-Binary…

When most of us first heard the term “Fuckboy”, it was pretty self-explanatory. We knew this was the kind of guy who would say or do whatever he needed to …well, fuck. We identified this breed as the guys who called after 10 pm, asked for nudes, only talked about…

Key takeaways from the play ‘For Black Boys…’ — ‘For Black Boys Who Have Considered Suicide When the Hue Gets Too Heavy’ is a trailblazing play written by Ryan Calais Cameron. If you can catch it, it’s on at the Royal Court Theatre in London, until the 7th of May! You can also read the ebook. The play is…