… to really go there and talk about that, which is one of those mismatched expectations right there. I’m used to hashing things out until love and equilibrium are restored. I think that’s healthy and the quickest way to move through a fight, but that’s not Nat’s way. By his own estimation, he’s very private and very stubborn. Talking about emotions is hard for him…
Elle Beau ❇︎
I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
This particular issue is so intereting and relatable. Sometimes, as you say, opposites can be very complimentary - the yin and yang - other times, they can tear a relationship apart. I agree with your style, to hash things out until equilibrium is restored, but I've also come to learn that setting things aside for a while until they "feel less hot" (but then returning to them) can be helpful.
There was a lot to relate to in this piece! Sending you good vibes as you process and heal.