I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

This particular issue is so intereting and relatable. Sometimes, as you say, opposites can be very complimentary - the yin and yang - other times, they can tear a relationship apart. I agree with your style, to hash things out until equilibrium is restored, but I've also come to learn that setting things aside for a while until they "feel less hot" (but then returning to them) can be helpful.

There was a lot to relate to in this piece! Sending you good vibes as you process and heal.