I was very uncomfortable with any signs of my parents’ sex life — hearing my mom, or that one time I walked in on them. But I don’t think it’s because sex is inherently traumatizing for kids, but rather because of the mixed messages I was given. I was told one thing about sex but shown another. I think the best way to assure your kids aren’t traumatized about their parents having sex is by making sex a natural and safe topic of conversation.