I was just talking to a friend about this feeling the other day. There are some problems but there are also wonderful things about each of our LT relationships, and, as shiny as singledom looks, neither of us truly wants to leave. That doesn’t mean that we should ignore problems or ignore the craving to bolt.
A solo vacation (or staycation) is great, as is communicating those desires to have your husband clean more! And couples therapy can certainly help — I’ve done it a few times throughout my 10 year relationship. I think therapy should almost be like a deep clean — necessary to do once in a while and important for BOTH people to put work into!