In the last few months, he’s been the one asking if I’m happy with our marriage, fearing I might leave him. It’s not because I’ve said I want to leave or even that I’m thinking about it. It’s because I’ve been shifting, becoming more grounded in who I am and what I want out of life. It took me 40 years to finally respect myself and value my own wants and needs. Now I’m figuring out what those are, and it’s shaken the boat quite a bit.
Mary Wise (she/her)
I relate to this a lot. The fear of losing a partner because I am the one changing. Afraid that I’m changing I will realize I need to go in a new direction. It’s easier to project this fear onto the person you may leave- blaming them for wanting to leave you.