Great overview of BDSM and the dilemma of “I’m a strong woman — why would I want this?” I have recently started playing with some light BDSM and submission and that thought is slowly dissipating. It does take courage and strength to submit, and no it is not a weak act by any means. I also enjoy dominating and feel much more comfortable in that role — it’s about understanding your partner and fulfilling their deepest desires. In some ways, arguably especially for women, that’s easy!

Polyamorous and sex-positive essayist, poet, and over-thinker.