Great article. My last relationship was with a younger guy and though he didn’t refer to me as any of those terms, I did start to feel I was being fetishized, partly for my age. Sometimes there’s a fine line between being fetishized and playing with a fetish together… if a person can’t end the game and see you as a complete human after the scene, it’s not going to be a healthy, mutually respectful relationship. I absolutely agree that it’s up to the woman to decide if she wants to use terms like slut, cougar, or milf for herself, and if she wants to give explicit permission to her partner to do the same.