Beautiful, honest piece. I’ve asked myself the same question at times: Am I bad at Polyamory? And I agree, there isn’t a lot of support in poly communities around insecurities and doubts. But I do believe most if not all of us feel it at some point or another. It’s helped me a lot to find other people who are more open to going there — to exploring and holding space for the exploration of these feelings. The big support groups can be overwhelming for me, but the 1-on-1 talks and mini groups can be so helpful.

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