Is polyamory a way to break free of codependency? Maybe, but it’s not always easy — “Maybe they want to do the theater with us!” I hear my mom above me from the kitchen exclaiming this excitedly to her husband. I’m home for a few days, mostly hibernating in the basement, working on multiple, long research papers that are all due at the exact same time. …

This is what grief and growth feels like — Drake wants me to meet Leigh, and because his proposal caused me to feel a wave of hope, the plan is to meet today. At our place. …

Maybe it’s the full moon — Thank you to all who read my stuff, but mostly thanks to those who write. Not just the pretty stuff, the “how to’s” and the beginning, middle, and ends, but the messy this is right now’s, but here’s one thing that helps… or maybe not even that. I just love…

Here’s how considering the unicorn life is going so far — I met Cody and Ashley on OkCupid, which is how I’ve met most of my partners over the past several years. It makes it easier to be upfront about my relationship status: “Polyamorous, in a nesting relationship.” But this isn’t the first time I’ve dated a couple. My past experience dating a couple When Drake and…

Is this The Worst Case Scenario in polyamory or a chance for deep healing? — It’s finally happened. The Worst Case Scenario. My partner is dating someone else, and I am not. It’s been the other way around several times over the past 6-ish years of our polyamorous life. I’ve gone on dates, had sex, had long term partners, and slept at other lovers’ places…

Like that time my dad caught me having sex at 17 — The other day, I was talking to my partner about my childhood home, specifically the large basement where my sister and I spent most of our time. It was our space, at first because that’s where we were told to go (less likely to bother our father, who didn’t like…

My fantasy Dom knows me better than any real Dom out there — For most of my life, I’ve relied on a partner to inspire me when it came to kinky play. It’s fun, and I’ve learned a lot about my sexuality through these relationships. But for the first time lately, I’m delving into my own naughty, taboo self by myself. It never…

Isn’t romance what inspires us to live fully? — Recently, I connected with someone new on OkCupid. On his profile, this guy is upfront about his interest in seeking non-romantic relationships. Nat states that he’s looking for friends with benefits or casual sex. Though if things felt right, down the line… maybe we could see about romance… I nearly…

A better question might be: are any identities choices? — Throughout my life, whenever relationships lasted longer than a year or so, I would start feeling stifled and less alive — even if the relationship itself was good. I had reached that point in my current relationship. I longed to connect with other people in a way that I wasn’t…