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Polyamorous and sex-positive essayist, poet, and over-thinker.

Here’s how to go back in time — at least in your draft

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Do you remember your early experiences with computers, typing your assignments for school?

Do you remember that first time you made a terrible mistake — such as deleting your entire document when all you wanted to do was highlight it and double space it?

The sinking dread of hours of…


Slow down and make room for pleasure

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“I’m gonna shower. I’ll be quick.”

“I’m just gonna run to the restroom. I won’t be a minute.”

“I’ll pop over to the store real quick to grab some stuff for dinner. I won’t be long.”

“I’m heading out for a quick jog — back soon!”

How often do we…


I’m Combining Tantric Sex with Other Spiritual Practices For Sexual Freedom

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I’m in the fourth week of a 16-week Tantra class called Pussy Pleasureland, and this particular home practice has been challenging.

The “deepest desire” practice in week one? Amazing. The self-love practice of week two? Incredible. …


Sometimes we need a new friend, someone who doesn’t know who we used to be

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I’ve been waiting for the sun to go behind a cloud.
I can’t stand it looking at me in this state.

Sometimes there’s pain in places we can’t see.
If I keep writing poetry, will I eventually find it, release it?

I’d just like a friend right now —
someone…


A poem about the body’s fear of desire

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My cervix is sorrowful —
closed, tight, and uncertain.
There’s so much longing
in my uterus though —
she’s wide open for love
and craving it.

But my cervix’s pursed lips say nope,
nope, no way.

The lips of my labia are soft — there’s
no muscle there, only soft flesh…


To love fully, we are already grieving loss

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It’s been a surreal week.

After leaving class Wednesday morning, my mother called me to tell me my grandmother is living her final days. I began walking towards the lake as I held the phone to my ear. There were long moments of silence between the words we exchanged.

When…


What is the connection between self-love and satisfying sex?

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Sometimes sex comes easily… you meet someone and you just mesh with them. You dive blissfully into the pleasures of the flesh. Other times, especially in long-term relationships, sex can challenge you to the core of your being.

You misread your lover, feel hurt, hurt him (intentionally or not) and…


A concrete way to understand an abstract concept.

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Ah, self-love. The answer to everything. Have a problem? Solve it with self-love.

When someone throws an abstract concept like “self-love” at you when you’re actually feeling pretty shitty about yourself… well, it feels like a slap in the face, not support.

At least, historically this is how I have…


Hearing your own voice speaking words of self love has a powerful impact

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Last night I woke up at 2 am, the time I often wake up when there’s stuff that I need to process. As I often do when I wake up that early, I smoked a little herb and put on a long meditative music track. I lay on my back…


I died and was reborn — all on the first day of class

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I have known pleasure, and I have a sense of my body’s capacity for it. For that, I am grateful.

I’ve experienced orgasms during which everything stops. The world comes to a crashing halt and the only thing that exists is pleasure.

I’ve experienced connections both alone and with partners…

Anne Shark

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